We like to think that we are intelligent, logical creatures - so we try to make sense of the messes in our life. Our efforts to make connections, to come up with explanations, might get an A for creativity, but a C for reality. Maybe even a D or an F. Sometimes we just don't know why we do what we do. As you consider your life, it's helpful to remember: It's always about something else.
Here's some thoughts from Rob Bell and his book Sex God on the connections between sex and spirituality - two things we don't normally associate with each other:
Jewelry, pictures, sculptures made by children, antiques that have been in the family for years, art projects, velvet paintings - we hold on to them because they point beyond themselves.
If we were to ask you about a certain picture and why you have it displayed in such a prominent place in your home or office or why you carry it in your purse or wallet everywhere you go, you'd probably respond by talking about the people in the picture, where it was taken, when it was taken.
But that would only be the start. Those relationships and that place and that time are all about something else, something more. If we kept exploring, you'd probably end up using words like trust and love and belonging and commitment and celebration.
So it's a picture, but it's more than a picture.
This physical thing - this picture, trophy, artifact, gift - is actually about that relationship, that truth, that reality, that moment in time.
This is actually about that.
Whether it's what we do with our energies
or how we feel about our bodies
or wanting to have the control in our relationships
or trying to recover from heartbreak
or dealing with our ferocious appetites
or the difficulty of communicating clearly with those we love
or longing for something or someone better,
much of life is in some way connected to our sexuality.
And when we begin to sort through all of those issues surrounding our sexuality, we quickly end up in the spiritual,
is always about that.
It's always about something else.
Something deeper. Something behind it all. You can't talk about sexuality without talking about how we were made. And that will inevitably lead you to who made us. At some point you have to talk about God.
Sex. God. They're connected. And they can't be separated. Where the one is, you will always find the other.